Choose You. Join me for a 15 Day Challenge.

I was worn out after months of putting everyone else in my life first. I was overbooked but didn't want to turn anyone down. I’d been delinquent in working out. My eating was atrocious. Everyone was annoying me. I was unhappy with myself emotionally and physically.  I knew if I didn’t do something I’d just get deeper into this funk until spring came. 

I decided to choose myself for one month. 

In January, I did something for myself every day. I said I wouldn’t cheat on myself, and when I did, I didn’t beat myself up about it. I stood up for myself. I said “no” to things. I asked for help. I raised my expectations of my family and others. I let things go. I chose me. 

Choosing Me got easier, especially as I began to see and feel the results. Physically I had more energy, I felt stronger, and I avoided illness. Emotionally I was less irritable, had more patience, complained less and liked myself more. 

My family didn’t fall apart. They understood that I would be working out on the weekends and for those two hours they’d have to fend for themselves. They accepted that I wasn’t going to do laundry every day, and they’d have to wait until Fridays or do it themselves. I scheduled my annual girls weekend trip with my college friends, and I did it without guilt. To my amazement, they started to choose themselves too. They are more independent, doing things for themselves and problem solving. They are asking for help instead of complaining. 

So I kept it going, continuing to Choose Me. It’s not always easy, because habits are hard to break, but practice makes perfect.

 

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I want you to feel what I feel. I want you to Choose You. So I’m asking you to join me in a 15 day Choose You Challenge. From March 16-31, I want you to do one thing for yourself every day. Maybe that’s taking a yoga class, meeting a girlfriend for coffee, relaxing with a good book for an hour, or anything that will truly make you feel good. Whatever Choose You looks like to you, do it for 15 days in a row. I promise you will feel a positive change. 

Spring is almost here. Let’s get through these last couple of weeks together, encouraging each other and being kind to ourselves. You cannot be there for everyone else in your life if you don’t take care of yourself first. It’s not easy but let’s practice this together. We’re going to ease into this, and in April we will reflect and then kick things into high gear with a month to Choose Confidence- but more on that in a few weeks. Let’s focus on the next 15 days to Choose You!

 

Print free

Use this free printable calendar to track your days. Circle every day that you Choose You. I use a hot pink highlighter to mark every day I do something for myself and hang it in my office where I can be reminded every day of my progress. Click the image to print your calendar for free and get started. 

Alignment isn’t just for yoga.

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Thanks for coming back for my final week of the Style I.R.L. Guide! We have been defining your personal brand, and using that knowledge to take steps to improve your life. Follow these easy steps to purge your wardrobe of things that do not align with your personal brand. 

Step 1:

Take a look at the inspiration board you created in week 1 of the Style IRL Guide. Remind yourself of what your personal brand is and what it looks like to you, and the words you used to describe it. 

Step 2: 

Keeping your personal style words in your mind, go through your closet and pull out any pieces that DO NOT align with that style. Example: If your personal brand is classic & professional with a modern edge, then you might want to pull out those bohemian, paisley, long & flowy skirt and peasant blouse. 

Step 3:

Once you’ve pulled everything out that you don’t think is in line with your determined personal brand, take a look at each piece again and make a decision whether you want to purge it or keep it. If it doesn’t really fit into your personal style but it’s something you just LOVE and brings you so much joy, KEEP IT! There are no hard fast rules and we are doing this work to create HAPPINESS IN YOUR CLOSET. But most likely if you’ve pulled out a piece because it’s not in alignment with your style, my bet is it isn’t a favorite and makes you feel not-so-great when you wear it anyway. Go through your entire wardrobe including shoes and accessories. 


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Don’t feel overwhelmed! Break it down into mini-sessions so give yourself 20 minutes whenever you can. You’ll get through it eventually and when you do it will make getting dressed every day easier and more enjoyable. 

Steps 1, 2 & 3 are part of a service I call the Closet Cleanse and I go though all of that and more with my client. But it’s easy to do on your own if you dedicate the time and follow the instructions I lay out in another post. CLICK HERE TO GET STARTED. 


Thanks for working with me all month long with my Style IRL Guide. We accomplished so much together. In the next few weeks, I challenge you to be diligent about your weekly outfit planning- make it a habit that you do every week and you will continue to grow your Virtual Personal Look Book. Choose outfits that bring you joy and make you feel great. That’s what it’s all about! Keep in touch with me on Facebook- I want to know how you benefited from this challenge.


Don’t miss my latest Facebook video where I explain the difference between physical and mental clutter- it’s real and it can bring you unhappiness! If you aren’t already, be sure to sign up for my email list and become a part of my style community. I share my tips, events and more from my Style I.R.L. Guide.

Stylist Secret: Creating Your Own Look Book

I’m so glad you keep coming back for my Style I.R.L. Guide! You are going to be so happy you did! In January we are defining your personal brand. By now you know how your life will improved when you know more about your personal style. First step was to create your inspiration board. Using your board, we used what we learned to define your style. Now let’s implement that. 

One of the services I provide my clients is creating a Virtual Personal Look Book. I’m telling you, it changes their lives. A client told me she can’t get dressed without it anymore! A Virtual Personal Look Book is a curated catalog of photos of your outfits- from top to bottom- that you can access from your phone and use as a reference when you get dressed every day. Imagine the time and stress you will save each day! No more standing in front of your closet wondering what you will wear? And as part of my Style. I.R.L. Guide, I’m going to give you the steps to create your own. Right here. Right now. Let’s go. 

Step 1

Step 1: Put an outfit together. Make sure you choose every element of the outfit from earrings to shoes. Try it on too. See how it fits, is it proportional and does it all work together. Also keep in mind your Personal Style- now that you know what it is you can use it to build a look you love.

Step 2

Step 2: Lay it out on the floor in a visually appealing way. Make it Instagram-worthy, with everything in the outfit included. 

Step 3

Step 3: Take a photo of it from above. Create a folder in your Photos called “Look Book” and file the photo in there.

DONE! If you take the time to do this, soon you will have a fabulous catalog of outfits to choose from. No more stress about what to wear to work or that luncheon.  Just take out your phone, scroll through your Look Book , and choose an outfit. 


This week I challenge you to plan your outfits for the week ahead of time. Take 15 minutes to look ahead to your week. Choose two days and pre-plan your outfits for those days. Then follow the steps above make these two outfits the first in your Look Book. Then see how you feel on those days when you use the Look Book to get dressed. Share with me on Facebook- I want to know how you benefited from this challenge.


Still not sure this is worth the time? Check out my latest Facebook video where I explain more about the benefits of creating Virtual Personal Look Book. If you aren’t already, be sure to sign up for my weekly newsletter and become a part of my style community. I share my tips, events and more from my Style I.R.L. Guide.